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Daddy Lessons

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Cowboy erotica meets Kathy Acker in this smart, raunchy look at a queer sexual awakening

Steacy Easton grew up Mormon, queer, and Autistic in the West. This book traces the people and spaces that made them who they are: the Mormon church, an Anglican boys' boarding school where they were sent to be 'reformed' and where they were abused by a teacher, and then, later on, rodeos and bathhouses and mall bathrooms. The world Easton describes is one in which desire is complicated, where men – 'daddies' – can be loving and they can be abusive, and there isn't always a clear distinction.

Easton explores the essential texts of their sexuality, from Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick to Neil LaBute, Kip Moore to Lorelei James, and delves into their own encounters as they came of age. These daddy lessons are blunt about the pleasures of disobedience, slippery and difficult, revelling in the funk of memory and desire.

"In dangerous times, Daddy Lessons dares to complicate the question of what children desire, including things that they probably shouldn't, and that adults must not exploit or manipulate. Except they do. Steacy Easton's meditations follow how such desires and disasters secrete an aesthetic and a self, and how something vivacious can spring from that muck, something like this book itself, smutty and shining and garlanded in jonquils." – Carl Wilson, author of Let's Talk About Love: A Journey to the End of Taste

"Steacy writes about the queer pleasure-seeking body in ways both fresh and eminently familiar." – Jordan Tannahill, author of The Listeners

"Daddy Lessons is a cocky and tender reclamation of childhood and teenage wanting." – Vivek Shraya, author of I'm Afraid of Men and People Change

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    • Publisher's Weekly

      August 21, 2023
      In this bold and irreverent memoir-in-essays about growing up queer and Mormon in Alberta, Canada, Easton (Why Tammy Wynette Matters) puts their sexuality under a microscope. Each of the book’s 14 essays are arranged around a “lesson” gleaned from pornography—“The Farmer Teaches the Kid How to Be a City Boy,” “Are Boys Who Took Care of Me Daddies?”—amounting to “a book of pornography that functions as a defence of the pornographic.” Easton, whose own father left their family when Easton was young, is keenly attuned to their childhood longing, often for older boys or men in leadership roles. Struggling to navigate both the confusing sexual repression of the church (a disciplining bishop “would send your parents out of the room, saying with great tenderness that he wanted to talk to you man-to-man”) and the explicit sexual abuse they suffered as a teenager, Easton was sent away to reform school due to their “feralness” in seventh grade and landed in a psychiatric facility by ninth. “This suffering and enduring enough to provide a lifetime of anxiety, a lifetime of fetishes,” they observe, but the prevailing tone is sensitive—Easton is refreshingly unafraid of their own complicated desires, admitting that they “know a daddy isn’t good for me, but I want a daddy anyway.” Though the style sometimes skews academic (Barthes and Foucault show up), this is a moving and largely accessible dive into the thicket of human sexuality. (Oct.)Correction: An earlier version of this review twice referred to the author by the incorrect pronoun.

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